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It’s Not About Balance, It’s About Priorities

When I was in the military, I thought I had to do it all. Picture this: working 12+ hour days, raising three kids while my husband was deployed, and trying to finish my PhD dissertation. I truly believed I could handle everything without slowing down. But here’s the truth: I couldn’t.

Trying to balance

I became cranky, emotional, stressed - and eventually, my body gave out. I developed shingles from the relentless pressure I was putting on myself. What I thought was necessary - doing it all - ended up hurting not just me but my family, too. They suffered because I didn’t know how to prioritize what truly mattered.


We’ve all heard tips about mastering “work-life balance,” but let’s be honest: there’s no such thing as perfect balance. Managing work, life, and personal goals isn’t about giving equal energy to every aspect of your life at all times. Instead, it’s about knowing your priorities and focusing on what matters most in each moment.


The Neuroscience of Priorities


Our brains are powerful, but they can only handle so much at once. When we try to do everything equally, we set ourselves up for burnout. Research shows that multitasking (which isn’t actually a thing) can reduce productivity by up to 40%. Your brain functions best when it has clarity and focus, which is why prioritizing is key to reducing stress and increasing efficiency.


5 Strategies to Prioritize What Matters Most


These strategies helped me during my toughest seasons, and I hope they’ll help you create a rhythm that works for your life, too.


1. Ditch the Idea of Balance

Let go of the pressure to give 100% to everything all the time. Instead, decide where your energy and focus should go in the moment. Some weeks might be work-focused, while others might prioritize family or self-care. Be intentional and give yourself permission to adjust.


2. Focus on One Thing at a Time

Your brain is wired for focus, not juggling. When you prioritize, you allow your brain to work more efficiently - whether that’s tackling work projects or spending meaningful time with loved ones. Remember, multitasking isn’t real.


3. Establish Clear Boundaries

Prioritization means setting boundaries to protect your time and mental energy. Whether it’s carving out time for yourself, disconnecting from work at a set hour, or saying no to non-essential commitments, boundaries give you the mental space to thrive.


4. Prioritize Rest and Recovery

Neuroscience shows that breaks improve cognitive function and creativity. Build rest into your routine - whether it’s short breaks during the day or consistent self-care practices. When your brain has time to reset, you’ll find you’re more productive and energized.


5. Reevaluate Regularly

Life is constantly shifting, and so should your priorities. It’s okay if what’s important today looks different next month. Regularly check in with yourself: Where is your energy going? Is it aligned with what truly matters? Adjust as needed.


Why Prioritizing Matters


No matter your role or responsibilities, the idea of “perfect balance” is a myth. But prioritizing? That’s real and achievable. It’s about focusing on what truly matters, setting boundaries, and giving yourself space to thrive in all areas of life. Whether it’s your career, relationships, or personal growth, prioritizing wisely can transform how you approach each day.


Let’s Talk About It


👉 How are you prioritizing in your life right now? Are you focusing on what matters most, or do you feel pulled in too many directions? I’d love to hear from you - drop a comment below and let me know!


I appreciate you,

Dr. Renea


P.S. If you’ve ever struggled with work-life balance (haven’t we all?), I created a podcast in 2020 that’s still just as relevant today. It’s packed with simple, practical tips to help you let go of guilt and focus on what’s truly important. Listen HERE!


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