If you've ever walked away from a conversation thinking
"why did I say all that..."
... yeah. THIS IS FOR YOU.
YOU SAID MORE THAN YOU NEEDED TO
You may not be bad at communication.
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But certain conversations?
They do something to you.
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You go in with a simple point…
and somehow leave giving a full TED Talk no one asked for.
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You explain more than you meant to.
You soften things so it doesn’t come off wrong.
You add extra words “just in case.”
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And then later?​
You’re replaying it like game film.
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“Why did I keep talking?”
“That was not my best work.”
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Meanwhile the other person has fully moved on with their life.
THE SHIFT
You don’t need better words.
You need to say less.
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Pulling is that thing where you:
​✅ try to prove your point a little harder than necessary
✅ over-explain like you’re being cross-examined
✅ manage their reaction in real time
✅ fix what you just said… while still talking​
And the more you do it… the more the conversation goes sideways.
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This book helps you catch it in the moment
and shows you what to do instead - without going quiet or going off.
WHAT YOU'LL ACTUALLY GET
This isn’t a “be a better communicator” book.
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It’s what to do in the moment
when a conversation starts getting weird…
and you can feel yourself slipping.
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You’ll start to see:
​✅ Why certain conversations go in circles
✅ Why it’s not actually about communication half the time
✅ How to step out without making it worse
And more importantly…
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What to say
What to stop saying
And how to catch yourself before you go full TED Talk again
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No scripts. No overthinking.
It's a shift you can use immediately.
WHY I WROTE THIS
I’m Dr. Renea Skelton - and no, I didn’t learn this from a textbook.
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I learned it from real conversations where I walked away thinking,
“why did I say all that…”
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From trying to explain myself better… and somehow making it worse.
From replaying things later and wishing I had just said less.
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Somewhere along the way, I realized it wasn’t about having the perfect words.
It was about what I was doing in the moment -
and how much I was trying to manage, prove, and fix while I was talking.
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I’m a communication expert, speaker, and retired Air Force officer…
but this part? I learned the hard way.
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That’s what this book is about.
WHAT READERS ARE SAYING...
Lisa F.
Drop the Rope is such a relatable book. I swear the author had me in mind when she wrote most of these chapters. It's a great read and an easy read. Buy it today.
I bought 5 books to give as gifts to people I know need to Drop the Rope.
Kelcie W.
While reading this book I found myself saying “oh I’ve been there” or “ooo I need to do that." It's full of relatable situations that everyone has experienced one way or another. The advice given helped me give myself permission to “drop the rope” and I can’t tell you how helpful this book has been. It’s a quick read but full of lots of information.
Highly recommend reading!
Amber J.
Very insightful book! I knew there was a name for those times when I felt myself getting pulled into a "tug-of-war" with certain people. Many times, it's just not worth the energy, and Dr. Renea's book shines a light on why we do this, how to stop doing it, and the exact words to say when someone else keeps pulling. Highly recommend this to anyone--not just overexplainers--wanting to communicate in a clear and grounded way so that you can keep your peace.