She's not stealing your lunch seat anymore.
Now she's in your group chat. Your office.
Your neighborhood. Your family.
And somehow you're still the one wondering,
"Wait... was that a dig?"
Mean Girls Grow Up helps you spot what she's doing,
figure out what the hell is actually happening,
and know what to say when she does it.
How to Spot Her, Stand Up to Her, and Refuse to Be Her
She complimented you. Included you. Maybe even became your friend.
Then something shifted.
The little digs started. The “jokes.” The compliments that somehow made you feel worse. The story she told slightly differently depending on who was listening.
Nothing was quite bad enough to call out.
Which is exactly why you kept wondering if you were imagining it.
She seemed
so nice.
"I was just
joking."
"Maybe I'm being too sensitive."
"If you can't quite prove it, she can pretend it didn't happen."
You know what she’s doing.
Now what the hell do you
do about it?
This isn't a book about winning, getting even,
or becoming better at her game.
It's about finally seeing the game while it's happening
and knowing what to do next.
See the dig, manipulation, exclusion, or power move for what it actually is.
Stop spending three days wondering if you're being dramatic.
Have the words when she puts you on the spot. Not six hours later in the shower.
Stand up for yourself without turning into the exact woman you can't stand.
She doesn't always
look like a mean girl.
Sometimes
she's obvious.
The dig.
The exclusion.
The “joke” that wasn’t really a joke.
Sometimes
she's really freaking nice.
That’s why it takes you so long to figure out what feels off.
And sometimes
she's someone you love.
Which makes seeing it clearly a whole lot harder.
And sometimes?
SHE'S YOU.
Yep. I said it.
Because if we’re going to talk about mean girls,
we’re not spending an entire book
pointing at everybody else.
SAME
BEHAVIOR.
DIFFERENT
OUTFIT.
I couldn't find the book.
So I wrote the damn thing.
I’ve been on the receiving end of her. I’ve watched her do it to other women. And if we’re being completely honest, I’ve caught myself being her, too.
I wanted a book that didn't just tell women to “set boundaries” or “protect their peace.” I wanted the book that explained what the hell just happened, why it felt so weird, and what to actually say next.
I couldn't find it.
So I wrote it.
